Time to give up control

25 Aug

We are in control. We are planning, managing, taking actions, revising, judging, planning, thinking. We are multitasking. We got really really good in all these things and they are necessary to feel right nowadays – it´s how the world goes. Right?

But all these skills – and even the whole reality of these things being important – has nothing to do with being pregnant or bearing.

So being pregnant can sometimes feel like a culture shock.
We are much to much in our heads. We are living in our heads. We do believe that we are our minds. But this human baby is not growing in our mind. And we will not birth the baby out of our head.
Pregnancy is the domain of the body. The body takes over – and we no longer can ignore that we are human beings living in a BODY and being part of nature. It can be a devasting feeling. Because we are more used to see nature as something to be insecure, inferior and imperfect.
Even if we chose to take that step of faith and to be lead by nature and not choose to follow a medical promise of total control – it still can feel strange. Simply because we are not used to live in our bodies and to let things happen. To be aware. To live slowly. To trust.

So pregnancy is our time we can use to step back into our bodies. Actually this IS what is happening, either we want it or not. But you can chose to embrace it and step forward or to try to resist and control. Needless to say that the last won´t bring you much joy, because you can´t get control back. It would be an illusion. It´s not easy to embrace feeling fatique or nausea or backpain. But it´s exactly the time now to chose to experience your body.

CONTINUE READING on the new blog´s url: http://www.happy-within.com/blog/time-to-give-up-control/

Spiritual Childbirth

22 Aug

When I was pregnant I decided I wanted to experience a spiritual childbirth. It was no question for me. I am a spiritual living person, I was doing my best do honour this months of pregnancy and so I was looking forward to the initiation of birth (and certainly I was freaking feared, but not so much about birthing but more about becoming a mother). I imagined a kind of candle lit, white, yoga-inspired angel like birth ritual. I thought birthing a soul into this material world would be a highly etheric procedure. Fortunatly I didn’t follow that thougths too far and I did not to often visualize birthing as this. Otherwise I would have highly been dissapointed by what I experienced really. I really experienced a mind-blowing sacred unbelievable wonderful (and certainly highly exhausting and going beyond borders) birth.

It was nothing like etheric or white light good smelling. And that simply was not important. Because Holyness and spirituality does not automatically mean candles. Meditation, incense – it can be surrounded by these things but these things are not the experience.
I experienced surrendering, being hold, being in a different reality. Floating. Real being. I know that I thought about 3 or 4 thoughts for hours. One was in the beginning „O goddess, this is like being an anmimal, this is raw, real“. And I think thats one of the problems our culture has nowadays with birthing. Its not a cultural ability. It’s far more real. More important and less under control.
I simply forgot to burn the incense, to put on the music. Nothing was important. It was not neccessary. I was birthing a soul into this reality, I was feeling my body, I was enlightened and an ape in the same moment. I was in the now.

So if you have not experienced birthing before: it will not be etherical. It will not be angelwhite. It will be earthy. As earthy as it could be. It will be sweaty, maybe bloody, exhausting, extreme. And thats the sacredness about it. Giving birth is not a mind-mastered simple sunday-walk. It is a body-experience where you experience unbelievable powers. That´s part of how we help bringing the souls onto earth.

Week-end Reflection

20 Aug

The borderline between positive excitement and stress is only thin. It is in me. The quality of my selfcare and how deep I am connected, defines this border. How much more can be done in one week, when standing on the flourishing happy side of life: so breathe, connect and don´t forget to pause.

This is part of the Weekendreflection at Petrea Hansen´s arttherapist

Guestpost from Karina Ladet: It didn´t feel spiritual

15 Aug

I remember how disappointed I felt when I became pregnant with my first child, almost exactly 7 years ago, and realized what a human experience it was. Don’t get me wrong now, I love being a human being, but somehow I had imagined my pregnancy to feel like a deeply spiritual journey. The year before I got pregnant I did hundreds of spiritual readings for people online and I was starting to feel like I was – finally! – living my Life’s Purpose. And because carrying a life inside me seemed so magical I just assumed that I would feel even more spiritual during my whole pregnancy.

This is not how I felt. At all. Instead I felt very strongly how I was living in a human body and that this body had a life of its own. I was no longer in charge and all I could do was surrender to what my body knew it had to do. I love being in control so this was quite a challenge. This is when I realized just how disconnected I had been from my body. I used to spend hours meditating and connecting with my Spirit Guides and not so much time being in the present moment and in my body. Despite my big disappointment this was a very valuable lesson.

I have been working on my connection with the Earth and the balance between Earth and Sky ever since.

I am always amazed by the beautiful lessons we learn when we let go of our expectations and truly see what is there, right before our eyes.

During my whole pregnancy with my first child I didn’t do one single spiritual reading and I believe that this was just what I needed to get back into myself again. I was so lucky to have amazing support during my pregnancy by two incredible midwives and my husband. We had planned a home birth but it took too long so I ended up giving birth at the hospital, surrounded by my midwife and my husband.

My natural delivery where I felt so safe and supported was like a sacred initiation and it gave me so much inner strength. And as soon as my son was born I started intuitively to give him healing when he was ill or had troubles sleeping. It’s as if my spiritual work needed to be more balanced so I too spent 9 months growing into my own body. And at the time of birth my spiritual connection got even stronger than before. I guess everything comes in its own time. There is no need to push or try harder. It is ok to let go and be with what is.

When my children were babies I found myself using my intuition a lot and I often asked my spirit guides to watch over them. When we sleep at someone else’s house I visualize bubbles of light surrounding them and protecting them. As my children grow older (my son is 6 and my daughter 3) I find myself bringing back my attention more to myself and to my inner voice and that is a great rediscovery. I feel like I’m coming home to myself again. And my children grow more and more into their own selves and that is beautiful too.

I know that having a spiritual practice or a spiritual life while being pregnant and having small children is different for everyone so I would love to know what it’s like for You.

What is your connection with spirit like when you are pregnant?
How do you stay connected to spirit while taking care of your children?

Karina Ladet
Karina is a channel and spiritual guide offering readings by e-mail, phone and Skype at Karina’s Inner Space. She offers her Communicate with your Spirit Guide e-course for the second time starting on August 19th and also spreads her light and love during week-end workshops. If you wish to receive her free Love Letters with messages from the spirit guides, please sign up by e-mail.

Blog: http://karinas-inner-space.blogspot.com/
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Why prenatal yoga is better

13 Aug

Have you ever asked yourself if you should do some pregnancy fitness course or do some workouts, or join a yoga class?
So this post is for you.

Fitness courses and workouts

Fitness is good. Yes, it makes sense to stay fit and healthy in pregnancy. But you know what? Sports and pregnanca workouts are overrated. Fitness is fine, if you want to have some extra movement, if you want to carry on with some fitness program. But it doesn`t help much for birth preparation. The muscles are trained, and you are doing good for your shape and your power, but it has not really an important impact on birthing nor is ist a real birth-preparation.

Yoga
What you really need in pregnancy and for childbirth is that you learn to feel and hear your body, to trust your body, to use your breath and to be present. To slow down and feel. And that is exactly what you do, when you practise yoga. And additionally you are strengthening your muscles and helping your body.

Yoga is definitely the better choice for pregnancy. Yoga is like birthing. And although the prenatal yoga exercises are smooth and easy they also help you to be flexible and healthy. But more it helps for your soul and your soul-body-connection. I can´t say it often enough – birthing is like yoga – yoga is like birthing. You will need to slow down, to connect with you body, to feel, to be able to stress and unstress muscles and BREATH and be. Being in your body.
Being fully in our bodies is not really something we are normally good in nowadays. And you can be very sporty, healthy and active without having a healthy connection to your body. And yoga (when it isn´t done like a fitness programm but as yoga) focusses exactly on beeing in the body and the body-soul-connection.

Don´t get me wrong. There is nothing wrong with fitness programms for pregnancy. Being fit is always good. But make sure you add yoga to your personal wellness plan to easily deepen your birth-preparation. (And if you are a lazy person as I am – then still do yoga and skip the rest).

You will be glad you did it.

Balancing

30 Jul

Sometimes life needs more balancing. It does not always happen like we plan – it even tends to happen always different from what we planned.
From time to time we need to step back.

I needed to step back. Balance. Wait. Still need. Nothing bad happened. I just missed the change in season of life and wanted to get done more than was possible. Sometimes its a child facing challenges and needing her Mama more then planned.

Sometimes I need to step back.

So I did. And I do.
Balancing.
And open to what comes.

Life has become fast. Sometimes we need to slow down to see the treasures. Did I say sometimes?

Collecting ideas, collection visions and then come back throwing fairy dust and making magic happen.

And as ever: making art, envisioning and connecting to my soul through making art. Meditating and enjoying life. My favorites. It´s not by chance that this is always an important part of my service and offers: soulart, joy and meditations. My favorites, that work together with all the other wonderful tools and techniques, that wait to be accessed.

Balancing. Slowing down. All this relates perfectly to pregnancy. Feel your center.

This is post part of the Weekend Reflection at ArtTherapista

Weekend Reflection

7 Jul

Isn´t it amazings to see the flows of a week and of a month? All these little challenges, little rough times and then coming back to center. This week I was touched again by “Mama Watta” the incarnate ocean. I have such a deep relationship to water. Its always healing, touching. (But that is another story to be told)

This is post part of the Weekend Reflection at ArtTherapista

Spiritual Pregnancy

26 Jun

Rready for a new perspective, ready for sweet joy and birth-power?

How should something so natural, so biological so medical be spiritual or sacred?

It is aching, it is discomforting, it is disturbing, maybe even dangerous and you need experts to get the baby out, right? Or how about this one: Pregnancy is normal, women ever had babies so its just biological and you don t need to make a fuss about it!

How would you like to see pregnancy?

What about glowing from inside, being proud, grounded and happy that inside happens THE divine miracle of live? How we sense and observe things impacts how we feel and what we experience (and not necessarily the other way round). And every woman who wants a child knows this sweet feeling of overflowing joy that the knowledge of pregnancy can bring. But so often it doesn’t stay. Wouldn’t it be great to carry this feeling along the pregnancy and experiencing a similar feeling towards birth?

YOU too can experience pregnancy this way. I can guide you.

>You don’t need a spacial belief (or a belief at all). Only openness. Maybe you won’t call the result spiritual. But you will call it special, wonderful, happy, more peace, wonderful intense, empowering, secure.

Curious to work with me?

Schedule a complimentary discovery-session with me or jump right into the fabulous, playful “Step Into Your Birth-Power” Course.