Hidden energy source in our life: our feelings can guide us

27 Feb
Feelings are most of the time not really easy, are they? Particularly if there are so much of them. And then even more intense and different from usual. Then we have this list of feelings that we like and the others should stay away. But it does´nt work that way.
Feelings are a really thrilling topic. They make us living, they make us alive. And even the „negative“ feelings can guide us. They help us. But we don´t like them anyway. I too.
To be rational and effective – thats trendy. Everything else is annoying. Feelings really make everything chaotic. They have different rules, different priorities.
And thats for good.
We can not live as machines. It would not make us happy and no one else either. So we need to deal with the feelings. Many of us – so do I sometimes – try then if the feelings do not fit (into our plans) ignore them. But feelings do always fit (but never in our calender).

The feelings – particularly the unpleasant ones – offer huge treasures, if we take them seriously:

  • They are the entrance to our authenticity and vitality. And therefore for joy and happiness, even if we may not feel really troubled or broken. It really brings more joy in our lives, if we accept our feelings and not fight them. Then we are easily able to feel the real happiness. The happiness about that we are simply right, and wonderful.
  • Wild feelings show us (sometimes exaggerated so that they are easier to understand) really important life-topics. Topics we otherwise would ignore, because that´s easier. They can point us at ethical values, we might ignore and whitewash. Or they point us at old wounds, srong desires, big fears. All this is in inside ourselves and it is precious. It is part of our life. If we always don´t want to look at it, we cut ourselves from the power of solving these problems and learn and grow from them (and they continue hurting).
  • If we really seriously love ourselves – and this is the most healthy state of being to seek, which brings ourselves and those around us happiness – then we need to love us when we are in a „bad mood“, too: not criticizing ourselves, not grumbling at ourselves, not being dissatisfied. Because then we make ourselves small and guilty instead of reckognizing the power which is in the situation.
  • Being emotional is not an unpleasant side effect of pregnancy, no mistake of mother nature. It is important and necessary. It helps us, to deal with the radical psychic changes, it helps us navigating through this time, it helps us to became a mother. It helps us being open for this time of change and our still invisible child inside and enables us to love it.

And in practice?

Simply dive in. Don´t worry, when we really dive into it, we really come back easily (and faster as if we don´t). Really. Promised.
But how does this work: diving into it?
It means you need to stop fighting, stop trying to be different, stop trying to feel different and stop being grumpy about feeling like that. You can comfort yourself and do something for you. But be careful that it is really something good and helpful and not simply flight or numbing.
What is helpful and good for you?
You can meditate, read inspiring texts that speak to your soul, take a bath, go for a walk. Express yourself through art, painting, writing, dance… Or listen to music and drink some tea… everything is healthy that lets room and is positive. Watching TV or reading novels is not on the list. You can give this as a reward to yourself but only after the first step. It is no confrontation with your feelings if you flee in a different life.
Diving in is different from enduring. Enduring is, when you sit and wait that it will go away. That is one possibility to deal with and its not the worst. But its not diving in or confronting with the message and the power of the feeling.

Often our judgment and our fears hold us back from diving into it. „I am not allowed to feel like that“ – „I don´t want to feel like that“ – „It´s not right“ – „If I dive into it, I will never come back, I will go crazy“, „no-one will ever take me serious again“ – „I will not handle the full feeling, I will break, everything will break“
Thats why most people stay at the edge of the feelings. I really can understand this. I like to stay there, too. I too need to overcome my fears, to dive into the rough water. But it is worth it every single time.
And the feelings loose their horror and show their sparkle and their power.

Nora Amala

P.S. The image is taken from a card of my inspiration cards deck which I am in the process of translating. They will be soon published in English. Here. So come back or subscribe to the mailing-list (and you will get a special prize for them)

7 Responses to “Hidden energy source in our life: our feelings can guide us”

  1. Sofie Meerhoff February 27, 2012 at 5:36 pm #

    This really speaks to me and it is written in such a calm manner.
    You come across as trustworthy and in touch with your own imperfection. I love that.
    Thanks for writing this, it was a great reminder for me to take my own feelings seriously and to stop not-liking myself for them.
    Love ♥

  2. Gaelach February 27, 2012 at 5:40 pm #

    Beautiful post, Nora. It is easier to shove our emotions aside or try to hide them. But we lose so much of life when we do that! Our feelings are a part of who we are, what makes us human. And yet they can still be so scary! Especially when you don’t know what you’re feeling. Of course, the only way to figure that out is to let yourself feel it. Interesting paradox we’ve made for ourselves!

    Much love,
    Gaelach

  3. gina rafkind February 27, 2012 at 5:46 pm #

    Feelings are so important………great post Nora……..it seems many are walking around like machines bc they don’t allow themselves to feel………..this is also a huge catalyst to anxiety – stuffing our feelings way deep down inside us………..we are here to experience all sorts of feelings………..ones we perceive as bad and good…….one is not more important than the other………thx for sharing!

  4. Petrea February 28, 2012 at 4:30 pm #

    Yes! Our feelings are treasures and they reveal the map to where we need to go if we allow them to. It is so important to tune into our own feelings and filter out what everyone else is telling us to think or feel.
    Thank- you!

  5. Belinda March 1, 2012 at 4:15 pm #

    Yes, thank you for the reminder! Feel the emotion coming up and deal with it, I am with you on this one! How many times we numb ourselves watching TV, eating…rather than doing something about it, or even accepting that yes, I am feeling a certain way and it’s OK. I love the new look on your site!
    much love x

  6. Linnette Dooley March 5, 2012 at 8:04 am #

    I love when you say “To be rational and effective – thats trendy.” I used to live in Silicon Valley, the land of the high tech companies. The tone there was what I called “Bay Area cool.” It’s way more fun to be uncool. Thank you for this.

    • noraamala April 16, 2012 at 1:39 pm #

      Thank you all for your comments!

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