From the moment your baby is conceived, he or she is all senses.  He bathes in the sweet sound of mama’s voice and heartbeat and the rushing of blood through her veins.  Her little fingers tingle when she touches her skin or the insides of your womb.  He is cradled by your every move and smilingly surrenders to that kinetic lullaby.  There are no words, no boundaries, no inhibitions and no distractions.

When your baby is born, she continues in this sensual mode of living.  She craves for your touch, she won’t sleep but with the sound of your heartbeat, she latches onto your breasts with the most succulent sounds imaginable.

A little later, he will discover the whole world by touching and tasting.  Literally everything goes into his mouth.  Followed or preceeded by an extensive exploration with his fingertips.  He smears his food delightfully over his whole face, his arms, his legs.  What a sensation!

Touch is the sense par excellence related to sensuality.

Fingers and mouth are the tools par excellence for erotic pleasure.

Your baby is immersed in the erotica of being alive.

All this has nothing to do with what we usually call sex. We’re talking about an energy here that is innate to humans and leads us to pleasure, enjoyment and fulfillment.  It’s an energy that actual sex is only a tiny expression of.  I call it sexual energy.  You can also call it sensual energy or erotic energy or creative energy but it all comes down to the same: the spark inside of us that makes us glow, from birth till death.  It’s the spark that conceived us in the first place.  It’s our origin and our force, not something that arises at the first sexual act.

If we let this energy flow naturally through our body, we feel carried, safe and treasured and we can create anything we want.  It’s an energy so naturally and complexlessly present in babies.  But when we grow into toddler age, the natural presence of this energy is generally kicked out by all kind of prohibitions and taboos.

Last week, I was eating a chocolate covered rice cracker with my 3 year old daughter.  Within seconds her hands were as covered in chocolate as the cracker itself.  First thought that went through my mind: I should teach her how she can eat without drabbling herself.  But then I saw her sliding her fingertips over the ribbed structure of the chocolate layer and I realized she was enjoying to the fullest her eating experience.  She engaged taste, smell ánd touch.  What did I want to teach here?  That that kind of exquisite delight is forbidden or at least far less vital than having clean hands?

Or should she rather be instructing me?  Look mom, you’re writing about sensuality all the time but here you have it, real life!  Walk your talk now!

I decided not only to take on her lesson but also to let her bask in her sensual food experiences without intervening.  I can only imagine that it will benefit her sense of healthy sensuality and body image later on.

We can raise our children to a healthy body experience long before they are teenagers and thrown in the claws of the media.  They are actually naturals when it comes to being comfortable with your body and all its delights.  It’s our task to guide their natural ease instead of controlling and forbidding it.

When pregnant, our baby might feel we are comfortable with the changes in our body.  When our baby is born, we can offer utter body safety by holding and carrying her as much as we can.  We can let our toddler have all those glorious bodily pleasures like eating with his hands, putting everything in his mouth, touching his own body and moving his body around as he pleases.

Switch off your social education mode for a while and take a new look at your baby or toddler.

Let your child teach you how to enjoy life with all your senses. 

Children often know so much more than us adults.  Let us be apprentices for once too.

Nele x

In my life I honor the divine feminine, I am pagan and drawn to the Goddess. So being pregnant obviously brought me nearer to the great mysteries of being a woman – the great mysteries of life.

It was like I found a personal invitation on my desk for the experienced intense mystery-course of divinity itself. The fee is “only” living energy: really getting involved with all feelings.

But six years ago I didn´t find any literature (in german) or any advice or support for this journey – I did not specially look for pagan resources but for every spiritual content. And I longed for personal support. As this was not a planned couple-trip I was desperately looking for women´s support to get me through this experience.

Finally I found my wisdom with the help of my best friends and spirit and I found support.

So you can easily see that this experience is still a great motivation for me. It is the reason I became a doula and spiritual pregnancy-coach.

You know, I had some hard times during pregnancy although it was a perfect sane pregnancy. But it was this urge, this strong longing and the problems I faced that helped me in really using the 9 month as a preparation and on the same time celebrating as a special, holy time. So I finally experienced a wonderful great birth without pain. And was able to experience a real initiation. I learned that the journey is not finished at birth and that an initiation does not mean that someone is becoming a new person- but in the long distance one can really see the shift.

I think that when I consciously had decided to become pregnant most of it would have happened, too. Because this way or another I was looking for the spiritual dimension of pregnancy and birth and committed to experience all of it. And that is the very simple clue.

You are pregnant?

Look, there´s an envelope for you and a free ebook.

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It´s quite normal that this happens over and over again.

The clue is, to get back on track, every single time we noticed that we´v left. But Sometimes its hard.We don´t get back on track. We lost motivation, our pig dog won, or worst: We think its alright the way it is and everything is fine.

We then really steal ourselves the satisfying experience of being deeply aligned with our soul and feeling a deeply connection and diving deep into lived wisdom and feeling really wonderful.

In pregnancy this means we hold yourself from learning more about yourself, motherhood and our babys soul. And it means that we don´t allow yourself to receive healing.

So very often we open up, wake up, when things get worse.

But do we really want to learn every time from suffering?

We don´t choose suffering – so when it happens, opening up and learning and committing to heal and nurture oneself is a good way to cope with a crisis.

But we can learn without suffering too.

We so often stick to the average, pretend that the barriers or the need of healing are there, don´t think of what we miss and steal from ourselves and in case of pregnancy what bunch of great experience we withhold from our baby, too. Because it really makes a difference if we are open and connected deeply (consciously curious) to the baby or not.

It does not make sense to punish ourselves when we start realizing this or to become sad and crawl in a deep hole. The only thing we can really do helpful about this is: Accepting the truth and committing to change (There is the second option of keeping everything as it is, too – that is what fear is telling us – but this won´t make it better or make us happier).

But, believe me, I know how hard this can be. How strong sometimes the fears or barriers feel. But believe me – this is an illusion. It is your own mind trying to keep your from growing because we always have fear of changing and growing. That is unfortunately normal.

So if we really long to feel better, to receive healing, to change these things that are really get on our nerves we need to face the challenge with open eyes and commit ourselves to it.

We all know this. So it´s time to DO it.

P.S. Pregnancy is the phase in life, where it is most easy to access the spiritual wisdom and experience with minimal fears and maximal motivation. So don´t let this possibility pass. Let´s talk in the Birthcircle  about the challenges and successes on the way.

P.P.S. You know what: I wrote this article for me too, because I am stuck on the entrance of a healing change – and I really need to motivate me over and over to face the fears and the feeling of “its okay, you don´t have to do anything- don´t touch it”. But I know that I will be grateful forever, stepping into it. And so will you.

So what am I speaking about?
I am speaking about living your bodywisdom and integrating the best of history, culture and medicine with your personal wisdom and taking back the responsibility of pregnancy and birth.

That does not necessarily mean that you follow special ideas as natural birth and breastfeeding or others. This does not mean that you will not go to the screenings or can´t give birth in a hospital. It does mean that you open up to the meaning and feelings of pregnancy and birth and find your own way. Your own opinion, answers, strength, beauty and joy.

To find these you need to come back to trust (instead of the viewpoint of fear and insecurity which is normally offered today).
And you can come back to trust if you:

• open up for the miracle that pregnancy is
• connect deep with your feelings and your baby
• open up for personal growth – using the time of pregnancy what it psychologically is: a time for preparation for a huge initiation.
• Learn to strengthen your intuition and to reconnect to your bodywisdom

This process can be easy or hard – that depends on your personality and what experiences you had before – but it should be joyous and worth it. (I don´t see any logical problems with something being hard work but full of joy at the same time)

Pregnancy is such a great time for this kind of shift and growing – because it’s the normal healthy way it should be. Pregnancy helps us in viewing at old patterns and new insights and it comes with better-to hear intuition and normally much emotional chaos (which is part of every opening, healing and learning process).

So what could this new and at the same time old way of experiencing pregnancy look like?
It means that you spend much attention on your feelings and experiences

• You will experience more fulfillment, more sense when you dive deeply into it and are as aware as you can
• You have the chance to experience trust, calmness and wisdom
• You will have no bondingproblems at all but enjoy a great feeling of connection
• You are best supporting yourself and the child
• You have the best chance to grow to the mother you would like to be

This is a very personal journey you will take. And for that you have the possibility to do it completely alone, or with one-to-one support through coaching or with a group experience or altogether as it fits in the moment. And that perfectly summarizes my offer to you.

I always dreamed about having a pleasant pregnancy journal since being pregnant. By now there are several journals to buy – but they all seem to be the kind of “fill in here” books, no journal. There are sometimes questions for reflections in it, sometimes only blanks to fill out. Thats not what I had in mind.

I wanted a journal in which I can write and doodle pages over pages, a journal that is layouted and looks good even when I don´t do a thing with it. And it should be a DIY-style, so that I can if I wish go with it and create along. So guess what, here it is. The pregnancy journal for you. I hope it motivates you to journal during your pregnancy:

The pregnancy journal is a 74 full colored pages pdf with two pages of additional layout material. You can print it and make a pregnancy folder for your own, using as much pages as you need.
And furthermore, when subscribing to the free journallinglist you will get ideas, tips and prompts and images for journaling.

And it is only 9,90$!

Well, Jesus was a special baby and all those who knew this, came to show him their respect.
This always remindes me of the scene in the Disney movie “Lion King”. You know the entering scene, where the lionbaby is born and is – in a ritual – shown to the cherring animals to honour him (or her in the second movie) and bow down in the crescendo of the „Circle of Life“-song.
So what is this all about? This was a „special“ baby, too, it was the son (or daughter) of the king. And there always have been rituals about introducing kings.

In italy theres the lore of a witch or an old women, her name is Befana, who went to honour Baby Jesus but she was to late, and she couldn´t find him. So she travelled all over the land and gifted each child she met instead. All these sceneries do speak to me on the level of the powerful unconsciousness.

There is this sacred time of birth. The child actually entering the world, through his and his mother´s work (labor). A whole new being, an old or new soul now manifested on the planet. And that really IS a moment for the angels to sing. Everyone who ever only attended a birth, knows this. Its a completly touching moment – and sometimes when you listen open enough inside you CAN the angels hear rejoice.

There is another tale that matches well with this topic of honouring birth and the person born: A king gathered his people, telling them, that he exchanged his child with a child of his people. And that he will watch how they treat the child and will call them to account, they should treat his child appropiate. No one knew which child was the child of the king and so the people started to treat every single child as if it was a prince: They treated them with respect and love and did their very best with every single child. The children grew up and the city and the land was blooming, the people were happy and rich. Because they all treated every single child as worthful as it was. How wonderful is this?

So thats the reason why I love those pictures of the ritual honouring the babies like Baby-Jesus or Baby Lion King. They speak to my soul. They show honouring the Greatness of birth, Hounouring the new arrived soul. We all should get such a honouring ceremony at birth. In some cultures this is tradition, but it is not soo farspread. Probably because in former times, so many babies died before growing up, not every culture has those rituals. I am not talking about the Christining, this is a babyritual but with an complete other setting and direction. I talk about honouring the Baby for coming and introducing it to its family and community. Honouring Live itself and honouring these special persons (thats what the “Circle of Life” scene is showing, isn´t it).
This is a great touching ritual for parents to do. But its unfortunatly not a easy one. Because mother and child are really tired and need rest the stress that comes with hosting a big family or communityritual is far too much and its not that easy to delegate it. So I know familys who did a  Blessing ritual, but not  in the first month of their baby. It is really touching and worthy.

I think these stories not only give us a clue how to celebrate the Baby coming into our live, but also – and that is at least as important – they remind us that we need to be honoured as well. Thats something most of us did not experience and miss. Every child coming to this earth is perfect, worthful, wonderful and a gift and so are we. We also came to this earth as a perfect wonderful worthful child. And we still are. We are full of value, beauty and love, because we are. (Not because of what we think or do, or work or archieved). We are worthful beings. Most of us forgot about it and we oftend learned the opposite, when we grew up, but thats not the truth. And now its a good time to remember.

Fotos: flickr: otina82, flickr, vigilant20; Nora Amala B.

So its time to share.

These are the wonderful free offers I found lately. Enjoy.

31 days of Soul Medicine (http://www.soulspackle.com)

The dark season is a time to reconnect with the longings of the soul. Its a time for selfcare, cuddling, celebrating and looking at the inside. At Soulspackle Sara offers 31 days of Soul-Medicine prompts to explore. The whole december. And for 2012 you can get free access to this as a little emailshower or course. This is great! I love it and will join in!

The Women´s Quest ( http://womenssquest.ning.com/)

“The Women’s Quest Community is a place to meet with other woman to share and explore the wisdom and power of the menstrual cycle.”

And I can´t recommend menstruation work and wisdom strong enough. Its a topic I work with since I was 16 and I only will stop when its time to study Menopause. If you are new to the idea of any value of the menstrual cicle it will first probably feel strange but this should stop you from exploring. Oh thats a topic I hardly can stop speaking about  – so in short: exploring the menstrual cycle can bring you more ease and comfort when you have a kind of difficult cycle, it can bring you a deep sense of being right and okay, being healthy and holy(!). So it really gets you back some power you didn´t know you lost.

If you are a member and just came over from the Worlds Biggest Summit, this post ist for you. I warmly welcome you here, I am very happy that you came over and hope you enjoy your visit here.

I have some links here for you, you might find interesting:

Here is the Link and introduction to the BirthCircle for experiencing great and spiritual pregnancy.

And a direct Link to the BirthCircle: http://birthcircle.mixxt.at Membership of the BirthCircle is free!

If your pregnancy is some time in the past but you feel strongly connected to the topic and wish you had found some offer like this earlyer and carry pain, grief or other unwelcomed feelings from your pregnancy or childbirth (or even a birth trauma), which you want to heal, then please sign in to this special mailinglist for you:

If you like to learn more about healing your pregnancy/ birth – experience – please join

If you have question, I´d love to answer them. So please feel invited to leave your question, your thoughts on the talk, your impressions, your experiences and your wishes here in the comments. I am happy to answer them. If your question feels to personal for a blogcomment, then please write me a mail, using this form.

I love to connect with you!

Nora

P.S. I am working on a special pregnancy journal for your pregnancy. Which will be released in November! And there are great other things coming to, as these colourful inspiration cards. So you might want to subscribe to my mailinglist to stay informed!

So thats why I strongly recommend mantra meditations for rebalancing when you are experiencing fears, worries, anxiety or other feelings that keep you feeling lost, lonely, desparate. This little exercise will help you to immediatly feel better so that you can take responsiblity and action.

This kind of healing work is extremly simple. And you don´t need any knowledge, any practise, you cant do anything wrong its just that easy. All you need to do is to serously try it out. I know that it works and I use it often.

Although chanting always helps on my experiences the indian mantras help even better. The mantras I use  comes from kundalini yoga. I believe that this special words will help most. And for us it is beneficial that we don´t understand them – maybe this is why they work so good. Our mind can´t do anything with it. Its just a vocal or a nonsense word. So no thinking around, critisizing is possible and it can directly sink in to the unconsciousness.

If your are not used to kundalini yoga and chanting mantras it probalby will feel quite strange in the beginning. I would like to encourage you to try this out whether you feel a bit silly doing it or not. Because when you first got over this initial feeling and start getting used to it, it is extremly helpful.

The mantra I use in this video – which is the one I use most – is Ra Ma Da Sa Sa Say So Hung. I think when it´s written it looks more complicated as it is, when you hear it. It is a good and strong healing mantra. You can`t completly translate mantras, they are special meaningful combination of healing words, so there are several ways mantras can be translated.

The elements of this mantra will mean

RA – Sun
MA – Moon
DA – Earth
SA – Infinity
SAY – being absolute
SO HUNG – I am you (In the meaning of I am divine, divinity is in me)

So enjoy this video and do a mantra-meditation with me.