Your baby, your guide into daily sensuality.

GUESTPOST FROM INSPIRING NELE  FROM SOUL AND SPICE

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From the moment your baby is conceived, he or she is all senses.  He bathes in the sweet sound of mama’s voice and heartbeat and the rushing of blood through her veins.  Her little fingers tingle when she touches her skin or the insides of your womb.  He is cradled by your every move and smilingly surrenders to that kinetic lullaby.  There are no words, no boundaries, no inhibitions and no distractions.

When your baby is born, she continues in this sensual mode of living.  She craves for your touch, she won’t sleep but with the sound of your heartbeat, she latches onto your breasts with the most succulent sounds imaginable.

A little later, he will discover the whole world by touching and tasting.  Literally everything goes into his mouth.  Followed or preceeded by an extensive exploration with his fingertips.  He smears his food delightfully over his whole face, his arms, his legs.  What a sensation!

Touch is the sense par excellence related to sensuality.

Fingers and mouth are the tools par excellence for erotic pleasure.

Your baby is immersed in the erotica of being alive.

All this has nothing to do with what we usually call sex. We’re talking about an energy here that is innate to humans and leads us to pleasure, enjoyment and fulfillment.  It’s an energy that actual sex is only a tiny expression of.  I call it sexual energy.  You can also call it sensual energy or erotic energy or creative energy but it all comes down to the same: the spark inside of us that makes us glow, from birth till death.  It’s the spark that conceived us in the first place.  It’s our origin and our force, not something that arises at the first sexual act.

If we let this energy flow naturally through our body, we feel carried, safe and treasured and we can create anything we want.  It’s an energy so naturally and complexlessly present in babies.  But when we grow into toddler age, the natural presence of this energy is generally kicked out by all kind of prohibitions and taboos.

Last week, I was eating a chocolate covered rice cracker with my 3 year old daughter.  Within seconds her hands were as covered in chocolate as the cracker itself.  First thought that went through my mind: I should teach her how she can eat without drabbling herself.  But then I saw her sliding her fingertips over the ribbed structure of the chocolate layer and I realized she was enjoying to the fullest her eating experience.  She engaged taste, smell ánd touch.  What did I want to teach here?  That that kind of exquisite delight is forbidden or at least far less vital than having clean hands?

Or should she rather be instructing me?  Look mom, you’re writing about sensuality all the time but here you have it, real life!  Walk your talk now!

I decided not only to take on her lesson but also to let her bask in her sensual food experiences without intervening.  I can only imagine that it will benefit her sense of healthy sensuality and body image later on.

We can raise our children to a healthy body experience long before they are teenagers and thrown in the claws of the media.  They are actually naturals when it comes to being comfortable with your body and all its delights.  It’s our task to guide their natural ease instead of controlling and forbidding it.

When pregnant, our baby might feel we are comfortable with the changes in our body.  When our baby is born, we can offer utter body safety by holding and carrying her as much as we can.  We can let our toddler have all those glorious bodily pleasures like eating with his hands, putting everything in his mouth, touching his own body and moving his body around as he pleases.

Switch off your social education mode for a while and take a new look at your baby or toddler.

Let your child teach you how to enjoy life with all your senses. 

Children often know so much more than us adults.  Let us be apprentices for once too.

Nele x

Nele writes about sexuality, relationships, women and men, body wisdom and soulful living at Soul and Spice.com

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Tags: Baby, energy flow, enjoy life, favorite, guestpost, Joy, Parenting, Sense, sexual energy, soul & spice, Toddler

A Letter from Universe

In my own pregnancy I searched nearly madly about some ideas and advice about living a spiritual pregnancy. I had some routine (and as always many challenges) in living consciously and spiritual in way that suited me and than after becoming pregnant I felt the strong desire to experience all of what pregnancy can give me. The point is, I wasn´t planned pregnant and therefore I had no preparation time before to get things clear for me, or have kind of vision or idea about the pregnancy not even to talk about spiritual conceiving. So after I finally arrived with the knowledge and acceptance of being pregnant, I felt the urge to dive into it, without delay and with kind of hurry

In my life I honor the divine feminine, I am pagan and drawn to the Goddess. So being pregnant obviously brought me nearer to the great mysteries of being a woman – the great mysteries of life.

It was like I found a personal invitation on my desk for the experienced intense mystery-course of divinity itself. The fee is “only” living energy: really getting involved with all feelings.

But six years ago I didn´t find any literature (in german) or any advice or support for this journey – I did not specially look for pagan resources but for every spiritual content. And I longed for personal support. As this was not a planned couple-trip I was desperately looking for women´s support to get me through this experience.

Finally I found my wisdom with the help of my best friends and spirit and I found support.

So you can easily see that this experience is still a great motivation for me. It is the reason I became a doula and spiritual pregnancy-coach.

You know, I had some hard times during pregnancy although it was a perfect sane pregnancy. But it was this urge, this strong longing and the problems I faced that helped me in really using the 9 month as a preparation and on the same time celebrating as a special, holy time. So I finally experienced a wonderful great birth without pain. And was able to experience a real initiation. I learned that the journey is not finished at birth and that an initiation does not mean that someone is becoming a new person- but in the long distance one can really see the shift.

I think that when I consciously had decided to become pregnant most of it would have happened, too. Because this way or another I was looking for the spiritual dimension of pregnancy and birth and committed to experience all of it. And that is the very simple clue.

You are pregnant?

Look, there´s an envelope for you and a free ebook.

           

click, to enlarge the letter.

Tags: conscious birth, conscious pregnancy, Experiencing pregnancy, favorite, invitation from universe, spiritual pregnancy

Spiritual Practice in All Day Life

I bet, you know this too: When everything is normal and fine, we so often loose our spiritual connection or stick at the surface of being.

It´s quite normal that this happens over and over again.

The clue is, to get back on track, every single time we noticed that we´v left. But Sometimes its hard.We don´t get back on track. We lost motivation, our pig dog won, or worst: We think its alright the way it is and everything is fine.

We then really steal ourselves the satisfying experience of being deeply aligned with our soul and feeling a deeply connection and diving deep into lived wisdom and feeling really wonderful.

In pregnancy this means we hold yourself from learning more about yourself, motherhood and our babys soul. And it means that we don´t allow yourself to receive healing.

So very often we open up, wake up, when things get worse.

But do we really want to learn every time from suffering?

We don´t choose suffering – so when it happens, opening up and learning and committing to heal and nurture oneself is a good way to cope with a crisis.

But we can learn without suffering too.

We so often stick to the average, pretend that the barriers or the need of healing are there, don´t think of what we miss and steal from ourselves and in case of pregnancy what bunch of great experience we withhold from our baby, too. Because it really makes a difference if we are open and connected deeply (consciously curious) to the baby or not.

It does not make sense to punish ourselves when we start realizing this or to become sad and crawl in a deep hole. The only thing we can really do helpful about this is: Accepting the truth and committing to change (There is the second option of keeping everything as it is, too – that is what fear is telling us – but this won´t make it better or make us happier).

But, believe me, I know how hard this can be. How strong sometimes the fears or barriers feel. But believe me – this is an illusion. It is your own mind trying to keep your from growing because we always have fear of changing and growing. That is unfortunately normal.

So if we really long to feel better, to receive healing, to change these things that are really get on our nerves we need to face the challenge with open eyes and commit ourselves to it.

We all know this. So it´s time to DO it.

P.S. Pregnancy is the phase in life, where it is most easy to access the spiritual wisdom and experience with minimal fears and maximal motivation. So don´t let this possibility pass. Let´s talk in the Birthcircle  about the challenges and successes on the way.

P.P.S. You know what: I wrote this article for me too, because I am stuck on the entrance of a healing change – and I really need to motivate me over and over to face the fears and the feeling of “its okay, you don´t have to do anything- don´t touch it”. But I know that I will be grateful forever, stepping into it. And so will you.

Tags: day to day, Fear, healing, spiritual pregnancy, spirituality

The shift in experiencing pregnancy

Today pregnancy has become a medical issue. As our world has become more technical and technological then ever before that is what happened to pregnancy and birth. But it is quite obvious that pregnancy is nothing technical, rational and for some women its quite obvious that its even not something medical.
Pregnancy is as old as mankind. Obviously , and part of our reactions and experiences in pregnancy and birth are as old, too. Pregnancy and birth have ever been social topics, in history as in present. Every culture has its own approaches but maybe you feel its time for some different approaches which are more holistic and more integrative than modern medicine alone.

So what am I speaking about?
I am speaking about living your bodywisdom and integrating the best of history, culture and medicine with your personal wisdom and taking back the responsibility of pregnancy and birth.

That does not necessarily mean that you follow special ideas as natural birth and breastfeeding or others. This does not mean that you will not go to the screenings or can´t give birth in a hospital. It does mean that you open up to the meaning and feelings of pregnancy and birth and find your own way. Your own opinion, answers, strength, beauty and joy.

To find these you need to come back to trust (instead of the viewpoint of fear and insecurity which is normally offered today).
And you can come back to trust if you:

• open up for the miracle that pregnancy is
• connect deep with your feelings and your baby
• open up for personal growth – using the time of pregnancy what it psychologically is: a time for preparation for a huge initiation.
• Learn to strengthen your intuition and to reconnect to your bodywisdom

This process can be easy or hard – that depends on your personality and what experiences you had before – but it should be joyous and worth it. (I don´t see any logical problems with something being hard work but full of joy at the same time)

Pregnancy is such a great time for this kind of shift and growing – because it’s the normal healthy way it should be. Pregnancy helps us in viewing at old patterns and new insights and it comes with better-to hear intuition and normally much emotional chaos (which is part of every opening, healing and learning process).

So what could this new and at the same time old way of experiencing pregnancy look like?
It means that you spend much attention on your feelings and experiences

• You will experience more fulfillment, more sense when you dive deeply into it and are as aware as you can
• You have the chance to experience trust, calmness and wisdom
• You will have no bondingproblems at all but enjoy a great feeling of connection
• You are best supporting yourself and the child
• You have the best chance to grow to the mother you would like to be

This is a very personal journey you will take. And for that you have the possibility to do it completely alone, or with one-to-one support through coaching or with a group experience or altogether as it fits in the moment. And that perfectly summarizes my offer to you.

Tags: Bodywisdom, conscious, conscious pregnancy, holistic, Medicine, pregnancy, Pregnancy and Birth, Reproductive Health, Shift 2012

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